Angela,
For considering where you might get a transplant, I suggest that you take a look at the advice on
Choosing a Transplant Center from the National Marrow Donor Program. They'll be the ones looking for a matched donor for you, since unfortunately your brother didn't match you. They have posted the number of transplants done by each center and other statistics that can help you narrow down your choices.
Check with your medical insurance company to see if you are covered even if you go to an out-of-state transplant center, and whether there are any restrictions on coverage you need to know about.
Being near home or family is important so I'm glad you are considering that factor. If it will help, look at the
Treatment Center Map we've provided for patients, to see where some of the treatment centers likely to have experience treating MDS are located.